August 2019

Many of you have probably heard this story. I never intended to write my book, Success on Your Own Terms: 6 Promises to Fire Up Your Passion, Ignite Your Career and Create an Amazing Life.

As I actively mentored others during my tenure at JPMorgan Chase, I noticed some developing themes. My “idea” was to become more consistent in providing advice, so I began to write down my thoughts. Over time those writings developed into a decent size document.

One thing led to another from a friend to another to an agent to a publisher and the book was born. However, what started the conversation was having those ideas on paper. Make it a practice to get your thoughts and ideas out of your head on to paper … there is power in that transfer.

Your goal may feel like a stone. Apply the “drips” consistently and know that as it hollows from the inside, you may not see the progress being made. So don’t stop before your breakthrough!

I am thankful for the many mentors who have helped me along my journey, particularly those that modeled the advice they shared. We are always being observed. Be intentional to model your beliefs, creating examples others can learn from.

Each morning commit to doing at least one important thing (paying your toll) before you consume any emails or social media. It could be something that helps you prepare yourself mentally for the day (e.g. devotionals, meditating, working out, etc.) or a specific task that moves you closer to realizing your passion and goals. Challenge yourself and watch the results.

As you wrap up this week, take a moment to reflect and find a few things “done well,” and give yourself that apple. We easily compare and contrast to find where we feel like we don’t measure up, but often miss acknowledging our wins.

Use the information you have and choose the move that best serves you. Learn, iterate, adjust and do better.

If you do sit still, that should be by choice, not indecision.

Talent is God-given. Be humble.
Fame is man-given. Be grateful.
Conceit is self-given. Be careful.

– John Wooden

Believe. Belief in your passion and purpose. Who you are and whose you are!
Achieve. Achieve the impossible, through faith and action is required. Both are required.
Relieve. Relieve yourself of comparisons to others and doubters within your tribe. Give your mind and body the rest and preparation it needs daily and weekly.

Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises.
– Demosthenes

Discern before you discard. Each opportunity is a potential small win in the making. Cumulative small wins add up.